Divorce FAQ's

1. I have been divorced for five years, and I want to move to another state. I can’t stand New Jersey any longer! What are the requirements to permit me to move away and escape from New Jersey?

A custodial parent(s) may only relocate if he or she has the consent of the former spouse. Alternatively, the relocating spouse must obtain a court order to permit the move. The purpose of the statute is to preserve the rights of the non-custodial parent and the child to maintain and develop their familial relationship. This mutual right of the child and the non-custodial parent is usually achieved by means of a parenting plan. Because the removal of the child from the state may seriously affect the parenting schedule of the non-custodial parent, the courts require the custodial parent to show why the move should be permitted.

There was a major change in the legal standard to relocate. On August 8, 2017, the New Jersey Supreme Court changed the NJ child relocation standard. The name of the case is Bisbing v. Bisbing, August 8, 2017. Since 2001, the family court have factors set out in  the major case of Baures v. Lewis when litigating relocation cases. However, on August 8, 2017, in the ground breaking case Bisbing v. Bisbing, the Supreme Court of New Jersey changed the New Jersey child relocation standard, and it also made significant changes in cases where parties share joint legal custody.  The court found that the reasons cited in 2001 for establishing the “good faith/not inimical to the child” test no longer supported the court’s 2001 restatement of the test. First, social science was not settled regarding the effect an out-of-state relocation would have on a child. Further, the trend in other jurisdictions cited by the court, that of recognizing a custodial parent’s right to relocate, had not continued. As a result, the court revisited the Baures case and it also revised the rule for evaluating relocation requests. In Bisbing, the court again replaced the “good faith/not inimical to the child” test with a “best interests analysis” when parents have joint legal custody. That test would apply regardless of whether the relocating spouse provided the primary residence for the children or the parents equally shared custody. The court held that the new best interests analysis is in harmony with custody statute, New Jersey Statute 9:2-4.

In summary, now a family court when it rules on a a relocation motion is now required to evaluate the same factors as when it determines custody:

  • The parents’ ability to agree, communicate, and cooperate in matters relating to the child
  • The parents’ willingness to accept custody and any history of unwillingness to allow parenting time not based on substantiated abuse
  • The interaction and relationship of the child with his or her parents and siblings
  • Any history of domestic violence
  • The safety of the child and the safety of either parent from physical abuse by the other parent
  • The preference of the child, if of age, and capacity to reason so as to form an intelligent decision
  • The needs of the child
  • The stability of the home environment offered
  • The quality and continuity of the child’s education
  • The fitness of the parents
  • The geographical proximity of the parents’ homes
  • The extent and quality of the time spent with the child prior to or subsequent to the separation
  • The parents’ employment responsibilities
  • The age and number of the children

2. Can I move away from New Jersey with the child without obtaining the court’s permission?

The removal of children of parents who are divorced or separated to another state is not permitted without court authorization unless both parents consent. The parents can always mutually agree to permit removal. However, if there is no mutual consent amongst the parties, then New Jersey places strict limits on the ability of a custodial parent to remove the children from New Jersey.

In general, the removal of the children from this State by a custodial parent is governed by N.J.S.A. 9:2-2, which provides in pertinent part:

When the Superior Court has jurisdiction over the custody and maintenance of the minor children of parents divorce, separated or living separate, and such children are natives of this State, or have resided five years within its limits, they shall not be removed out of its jurisdiction ….. without the consent of both parents, unless the court upon cause shown, shall otherwise order.

3. What do I have to establish to obtain the court’s approval to move to another state?

There was a major change in the legal standard to relocate. On August 8, 2017, the New Jersey Supreme Court changed the NJ child relocation standard. The name of the case is Bisbing v. Bisbing, August 8, 2017. Since 2001, the family court have factors set out in  the major case of Baures v. Lewis when litigating relocation cases. However, on August 8, 2017, in the ground breaking case Bisbing v. Bisbing, the Supreme Court of New Jersey changed the New Jersey child relocation standard, and it also made significant changes in cases where parties share joint legal custody.  The court found that the reasons cited in 2001 for establishing the “good faith/not inimical to the child” test no longer supported the court’s 2001 restatement of the test. First, social science was not settled regarding the effect an out-of-state relocation would have on a child. Further, the trend in other jurisdictions cited by the court, that of recognizing a custodial parent’s right to relocate, had not continued. As a result, the court revisited the Baures case and it also revised the rule for evaluating relocation requests. In Bisbing, the court again replaced the “good faith/not inimical to the child” test with a “best interests analysis” when parents have joint legal custody. That test would apply regardless of whether the relocating spouse provided the primary residence for the children or the parents equally shared custody. The court held that the new best interests analysis is in harmony with custody statute, New Jersey Statute 9:2-4.

In summary, now a family court when it rules on a a relocation motion is now required to evaluate the same factors as when it determines custody:

  • The parents’ ability to agree, communicate, and cooperate in matters relating to the child
  • The parents’ willingness to accept custody and any history of unwillingness to allow parenting time not based on substantiated abuse
  • The interaction and relationship of the child with his or her parents and siblings
  • Any history of domestic violence
  • The safety of the child and the safety of either parent from physical abuse by the other parent
  • The preference of the child, if of age, and capacity to reason so as to form an intelligent decision
  • The needs of the child
  • The stability of the home environment offered
  • The quality and continuity of the child’s education
  • The fitness of the parents
  • The geographical proximity of the parents’ homes
  • The extent and quality of the time spent with the child prior to or subsequent to the separation
  • The parents’ employment responsibilities
  • The age and number of the children

If, for some reason, the custodial parent fails to produce evidence on the issues above, then the non-custodial parent will have no duty to go forward and a judgment that denies the removal will be entered. If the custodial parent does establish a prima facie case, then the court will set the case down for a plenary hearing. At the hearing, the custodial parent must produce evidence that supports the move. Whereas, the non-custodial parent must produce evidence opposing the move as either not in good faith or harmful to the child’s interest.

4. What is the overall guiding principle in a removal case?

At all times in a removal case the guiding principal is what is in the best interests of the children. The court will focus on the question whether the children have a better life in New Jersey or in the new state.

5. When will I get my court date and a plenary hearing?

The custodial parent is entitled to a hearing only after having satisfied the threshold requirements. The court in Baures v. Lewis, 167 N.J. 91 (2001), held that the party seeking to move should initially produce evidence to establish a prima facie case that; (1) there is a good faith reason for the move, and (2) that the move will not be inimical to the child’s best interest. If the custodial parent satisfies this burden, then the court will set the case down for a plenary hearing.

6. How are these removal hearings handled by the courts?

The court will then schedule the removal case for a case management hearing. At this hearing, the lawyers for the parties will meet with the judge and discuss a discovery deadline. The parties will be ordered to exchange their discovery. The discovery will consist of any proofs that will be submitted at the plenary hearing. Some relevant proofs are a comparison of the school districts, pictures of the new home, information about the new home, a reasonable proposed visitation plan, and psychological reports. Finally, the court will encourage the parties to try to reach an amicable settlement.

In many removal cases the court will also order that a family psychologist be appointed to prepare an evaluation report. In most cases the court will order that the parties split the costs of the retainer fee to hire the psychologist. The family psychologist normally charges between $3,000 to $5,000 to prepare a report and to testify at court. The psychologist will then interview the child, the parents, the extended family members, review all of the school records, and any other relevant evidence. Thereafter, the psychologist will prepare a written report and give his professional opinion as to whether the removal of the child out of New Jersey is in the “best interests of the child.”

After the discovery is complete and the psychologist’s expert report is submitted, the court will then schedule for a plenary hearing. In some removal cases, the hearing will be held in one afternoon session. However, in many other removal cases the hearing will consist of several court sessions. Please keep in mind that the New Jersey family courts are overwhelmed. In many removal cases, a judge may be only able to hear a few hours of testimony even though the parties have been in court waiting all day. The family court judges have many cases that they have to hear each day. Consequently, it is almost impossible for a family court judge to hear a removal case on a continuous basis. This makes it very difficult for the parties, and it also increases the cost of the litigation. Lawyers always have to charge for their waiting time.

7. What are some of the types of proof that I will have to submit to the court in support of my removal application?

The custodial parent who is proposing the move out of New Jersey may want to provide the following information or evidence to the court;

a. The reasons given for the move.

b. Proof of inability to find suitable employment in New Jersey.

c. Proof that a career move to another state would be beneficial to the family and to the child.

d. The past history of dealings between the parties. The custodial parent should submit proof that he or she has been fully compliant with any visitation or parenting plans that were part of any divorce judgment or court order.

e. Proof that the child will receive educational, health and leisure opportunities at least equal to what is available New Jersey.

f. Any special needs or talents of the child that require accommodation and whether such accommodation or its equivalent is available in the new location.

g. Proof that a visitation and communications schedule can be developed that will allow the non custodial parent to maintain a full and continuous relationship with the child.

h. Proof that there is a strong likelihood that the custodial parent will continue to foster the child’s relationship with the non custodial parent if the move is allowed.

i. Proof that the move will produce no detrimental effect on the extended family relationships, here and in the new location.

j. If the child is of age, his or her preference.

k. Information about the new school district where the children may be moving to.

l. Pictures of the new home where the child will live.

m. Proof that the moving parent has strong family ties to the new state.

n. A proposed reasonable visitation plan if the removal application is granted.

o. Any proof that proves that the child will have a better life in the new state.

8. What can I do to stop my wife from moving away from New Jersey?

The non-custodial parent may want to produce the following proofs and information to the court at any plenary hearing:

a. The reasons given for the opposition to the move.

b. Proof that the moving party can find suitable employment in New Jersey.

c. Proof that the moving party has not permitted a reasonable visitation and a shared parenting plan in the past.

d. Proof that the child will receive better educational, health and leisure opportunities in New Jersey than in the proposed new home state for the child.

e. Any special needs or talents of the child that require accommodation in New Jersey. Moreover, any proof that verifies that such accommodation or its equivalent is not available outside of New Jersey.

f. Proof that a visitation and communication schedule is impossible to develop.

g. Proof that it is impossible for the non custodial parent to maintain a full and continuous relationship with the child outside of New Jersey.

h. Proof that the custodial parent will not continue to foster the child’s relationship with the non custodial parent if the move is allowed

i. Proof that it will be impossible for the child to maintain extended family relationships, here and in the new location.

j. If the child is of age, his or her preference to remain in the Garden State.

k. Proof that the child’s current school district in New Jersey is superior to the proposed new state’s school district.

l. Proof that your former spouse has not complied with the visitation provisions of the judgment of divorce or with any other court orders regarding visitation.

m. Proof that the child has bonds with extended family members in New Jersey.

n. Proof that it will be impossible for the parent to have a reasonable visitation plan with the child if the removal is granted.

9. Does every application for a removal of a child require a full blown out plenary hearing?

No, not every relocation case requires a full plenary hearing. Plenary hearing are very time consuming, they are constantly adjourned, and they cost big bucks. Moreover, the family courts simply do not have the personnel and the time to conduct as many plenary hearings as they schedule. For the past five years, the major rage in the family courts has been to schedule a plenary hearing for every post-judgment application. This rage may be slowing down some. An interesting case is Barblock v. Barblock, 383 N.J. Super. 114 (App. Div. 2006) . In this case the issue was whether the trial court committed an error by granting plaintiff-mother’s application to remove the parties two minor children to Buffalo, New York in the absence of a plenary hearing? The Appellate Division held no error was committed by not holding a plenary hearing. More specifically, the Barblock court held that trial court did not commit an error in granting the mother’s removal application in the absence of a plenary hearing since the trial judge heard extensive oral argument on the motion, considered all of the written submissions of the parties, and appropriately determined that the two-prong test set forth in Baures v. Lewis, 167 N.J. 91 (2001), was satisfied. The main point of the Barblock case is that a plenary hearing is not required for all contested removal cases. Here, the father failed to raise any genuine issues of material fact, and it was not necessary for the trial court to conduct a plenary hearing.

10. I have just lost my removal case, and my wife will be permitted to relocated to Florida with my two young boys. It is going to cost me a small fortune for parenting time expenses by paying for all of the airfare. Can I file a motion to reduce my child support based upon my increased parenting time expenses?

What a great idea! You have an excellent chance of prevailing on your motion. In the case case of Heselton v. Maffei, 374 N.J. Super. 184 (App. Div. 2005), the  court held that the mother’s relocation with the minor children of the marriage to Maine justified a downward modification of the father’s child support as a result of his increased parenting time expenses.